This is a great horse.  I like the looks of his velvety coat, gentle eyes, and the contrasting color at the edge of his ears.   I like the carefree manner in which his mane blows in the breeze.  I like his confidence and apparent strength.  But I also like the fact that he isn’t too “alpha” to play nice with the other horses.  This horse will cross the pasture to greet me – whether or not I bring carrots.  He is accessible and friendly.  This is a really great horse.

   It occurs to me there is much I can learn from this horse.   Perhaps take care that my eyes remain gentle…when dealing with difficult people.  Perhaps exercise more patience…observing cues and absorbing information I otherwise miss.   I should definitely make it a practice to enjoy the breeze – just because it’s pleasant.  If I embrace the journey (across the pasture) to engage a client, opposing counsel, or the stranger at the fence, I won’t have regrets about  missed opportunity.  I’d do well to maintain my strength and confidence.

 With respect to divorce, it is helpful to check your perspective.   While you cannot control another’s words or actions, you can work on your response.  Tools are readily available to  help identify and change any negative “self talk” or thought patterns.   A positive outlook makes an enormous difference in your perception of your situation — and your ability to bring all of your skills and strengths to the table.  If you are considering divorce and are anxious, angry, obsessed, or generally miserable, consider a few sessions of cognitive behavioral therapy.  

It also helps to find a great horse.

© Karen S. Hindson, Hindson & Melton LLC    July 4, 2014

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